JL's Columbia SC Real Estate Blog: Facebook....A Study of the Socially Unacceptable

Facebook....A Study of the Socially Unacceptable


 Since I joined the millions of other members on Facebook, I have reunited with friends that I haven't seen in years. I have also made new friends and found it as an excellent tool to stay in touch with people and dare I say it, yes have a little bit of fun in the process. One of the first things that struck my about Facebook, was the overwhelming amount of requests that I receive on daily basis. If you were to answer each and every request, I'm not sure that you would have much time in your day to do anything else, so unfortunately I do have to be a little selective when it comes to those things.

  So after participating for a while and building the amount of friends that I have there, I had to stop and take notice of just what types of requests I was receiving from everyone. A a closer glance I noticed that there was a lot to do with snowball fights, water balloons, and water guns. This lead me to wonder in all honesty if I and the other people on my friends list would be friends in real life if our Facebook requests became a part of our reality.

 Take this for example, you are walking down the street one day, minding your business when all of the sudden you are tagged in the side of the head with a giant water balloon filled with Tabasco. Then as you are taking the time to wipe the hot sauce from your eyes, you are pelted with three or four dirty snowballs that would no doubt knock you to the ground. And while you are lying on the ground trying to figure out just what the hell happened, someone runs up and sprays you with a supersoaker full of chocolate milk.

  You see it's all fun and games until someone loses an eye because of hot sauce or has a shirt ruined. This makes me wonder if these people really are my friends, or if they are trying to tell me something through the constant harassment that I endure on their behalf. I'm just saying that the majority of the activities that we engage in through those requests are exactly how not to make friends in real life. I should know, I once drove through my home town throwing water balloons out of my car at people walking down the sidewalk. At no point did any of them look like they wanted to be my friend.

  So from now on, I think I may just stick to the drinking requests. After all, buying someone a beer is an excellent way to make a friend. However, throwing that same beer at the person you are trying to make friends with, not so much. It would likely result in some type of bar fight that would really be no good for anyone involved. So the next time you're on Facebook and thinking about answering a request, stop and ask yourself, are these people really my friends?


JL Boney, III - Columbia, SC Realtor - Coldwell Banker Residential Real Estate

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Comment balloon 27 commentsJL Boney, III • March 24 2009 12:26PM


JL - you really made me laugh!  The picture you painted is so funny!!  I get so tired of the pokes, the snowballs, the requests - I usually just ignore them - but now you've made me laugh - so it's all good!  Will you be my friend???

Kathy Carson - RE/MAX 1st olympic - Lynchburg, VA

Posted by Kathy Carson, Realtor, Lynchburg, VA, VA Homes - Lynchunberg,Bedford, Campbell (John Stewart Walker, Inc) over 11 years ago

JL...I haven't the faintest idea what you are talking about.  I have all I can do to keep up here on AR, my E-Mails, My hunting and fishing sites, ect.

Posted by William Feela, Realtor, Whispering Pines Realty 651-674-5999 No. (WHISPERING PINES REALTY) over 11 years ago

Keep your Facebook clean if you are going to be on it as it is a reflection of you.  Get your sphere to get on Facebook if you really want a lead generation source.  Then create a business Facebook page.  It is not hard to push the ignore or delete button on Facebook.  Your career is at stake.

Posted by TIM MONCRIEF, Over 2,000 homes sold….. (Tim Monciref) over 11 years ago


    I don't participate in all the throwing, testing, quizzing etc. I do say something from time to time. I've found that many of my past clients are on there so I get to see a side of them I perhaps didn't see in the transaction. It's great. I will say, I don't post a lot about myself or publish my response to the latest 25 questions. I agree with Tim. It can be a great tool if you don't get carried away with it or post embarassing photos or statements. Just a couple of weeks ago I ran across a guy I knew 45 years ago. It just so happens he's a broker in another state and now a potential source of referrals. It's all what you make it.

Posted by Larry Riggs, GRI, SRS Your Frederick County Specialist (Century 21 Redwood) over 11 years ago

Funny.  There really is a lotttttt of time kill on these sites.  Makes me wonder who has time to request all these silly things?

Posted by Brian Griffis (Realty Choice) over 11 years ago

Kathy- I will certainly be your friend, but you need to know that once and a while when the tension mounts too high, I will throw a water balloon.

Bill- There are all sorts of requests on Facebook, and some of them are snowball fights or water balloon fights. If you haven't been there, then I'm sure you're lost on this one.

Tim- I think my career can handle a few water balloons, thanks for stopping by.

Larry- It is what you make of it, and I try not to post a lot of personal material anywhere.

Brian- Believe me there are people out there with tons of time on their hands.

Posted by JL Boney, III, Columbia, SC Real Estate (Coldwell Banker) over 11 years ago

I don't participate in most of those requests, either. There is even one about the mafia. Don't like it. Not gonna do it. It's too agressive and seems mean-spirited.

Posted by Amy Seaholt, REALTOR, Portland Oregon (Inhabit Real Estate) over 11 years ago

Amy- I must admit that I have thrown a snowball or two in my day, but I don't do anything with the whole mafia wars ordeal, however a lot of my friends do.

Posted by JL Boney, III, Columbia, SC Real Estate (Coldwell Banker) over 11 years ago

I just joined too and it is pretty cool.  It is like my calculator ----it has more things to do than I know how to use.


Posted by Team Honeycutt (Allen Tate) over 11 years ago

JL, you are right. Between Twitter with people "following" you and Facebook with its concept of "friends" this whole cyberspace thing is way out of control. JL, do you ever think many of these people are just starved for attention? And have no life outside their computer?

Posted by Gary Woltal, Assoc. Broker Realtor SFR Dallas Ft. Worth (Keller Williams Realty) over 11 years ago

JL:  I'm not one who gets these Facebook request either.  Facebook friendships are certainly no substitution for real friendships, or networking here on AR.

Posted by Chris Ann Cleland, Associate Broker, Bristow, VA (Long and Foster REALTORS®, Gainesville, VA) over 11 years ago

I love Facebook but I don't usually get involved with the games.  It is nice to see what others are up to.

Posted by Melody Botting, You Deserve The Best (Broker Associate PenFed Realty) over 11 years ago

I love facebook and have been on there more than AR lately.  it has become my new love.  I don't participate in the games though.  About 1x/month I will accept something.  It just get's too much!

Posted by Kristin Moran, San Antonio,TX - Real Estate - 210-313-7397 (Owner - RE/MAX Access - KristinMoran@Remax.net) over 11 years ago

Featured @ Club Chaos

Posted by C Tann-Starr (Tann Starr & Associates, Inc.) over 11 years ago

What? How dare you not join my sorority KM! I'm getting my butt whupped over there (LMAO). ;-)

Hey, you aren't on my Yoville crew? What is up with that, chicka? Wait 'till I get to TX. I am soooo driving over there! (LOL)

Posted by C Tann-Starr (Tann Starr & Associates, Inc.) over 11 years ago

JL - I get drinking requests all the time.  Wonder where they get that idea?  No fight requests though.  My FB friends must be too tame, not like you and me.  But, whenever one of them suggests a rumble, I know who I'll call to be in my corner!!!!   (Mostly, I ignore all of it, honestly.)  But, I like to jump in when I have time. 

Posted by Suzanne McLaughlin, Sabinske & Associates, Realtor (Sabinske & Associates, Inc. (Albertville, St. Michael)) over 11 years ago

JL - I try to ignore all of those requests on FB.  I've enjoyed connecting with many old friends, but I draw the line at those goofy games.

Posted by John Cannata, Texas Home Mortgage - Purchase or Refinance (214-728-0449 http://TexasLoanGuy.com) over 11 years ago

I have connected with so many high school people of FB over the last 2 months or so.  I do play some of those games, but keep them to myself!

Posted by Laura Giannotta, Your Realtor Down the Shore! (Keller Williams Realty - Atlantic Shore ) over 11 years ago

Good Morning JL-I like to have fun but somethings are just a bit too childish but I guess like beauty it is in the eyes of the beholder. I like AR so I don't think I will be doing FB. You always have such well-written posts. Great post. have a great day. :-)

Posted by Sharon Lee, Retired and loving life (Sharon Lee's Virtual Assistance) over 11 years ago


I had to cool it with Facebook and a couple of other places, it was taking just tooooooooo much of my time and I wasn't getting anything done..........Like having a glass of wine or a nice cold beer.

Posted by Don Rogers, Realtor, Broker, CDPE, GRI, OnullFallon MO & St Charles County MO homes (Keller Williams Realty Chesterfield) over 11 years ago

Shelton- I know what you mean.

Gary- I think you may be on to something there.

Chris Ann- They can become something though.

Mel- I get suckered into them once and a while.

Kristin- Then I will have to stop throwing balloons at you if you want throw them beck.


Posted by JL Boney, III, Columbia, SC Real Estate (Coldwell Banker) over 11 years ago

C- Thanks for the feature.

Suzanne- I will friend you and we can fight, but we will have to drink and make up afterward.

John- Some of them are down right important, don't you want to know what molecule you are?

Laura- I don't actually play the games on there, but I will participate in some of the requests.

Sharon- AR is still my favorite place to play as well, but I am on FB. Thanks for stopping by.

Don- I know what you mean, if you spend time everyday on all the sites, you'll never do anything else.

Posted by JL Boney, III, Columbia, SC Real Estate (Coldwell Banker) over 11 years ago

THIS coming from the water balloon king?!! I am shocked!!

Posted by Jamie Boney (Mungo Homes) over 11 years ago

Jamie- Easy now.

Posted by JL Boney, III, Columbia, SC Real Estate (Coldwell Banker) over 11 years ago

Dang it, the wifey beat me to the punch, O well, I have not the opportunity to or care to go to facebook at this point yet.

                                ~ Life is Good

Posted by Roy A. Peterson, P.R.E.I. (Domicile Analysis of Texas) over 11 years ago

This from a man who has so far squirted me in the eye with vinegar and hit me somewhere else with something else that I can't quite remember!! 

Posted by Susan Mangigian, Chester & Delaware County Homes, Delaware and Ches (RE/MAX Preferred, West Chester, PA, RS152252A) over 11 years ago

Roy- Maybe you'll make it over some day.

Susan- I just saying that if I did that in person, it would be an issue. Since it's on the computer, then I should be alright.

Posted by JL Boney, III, Columbia, SC Real Estate (Coldwell Banker) over 11 years ago