I would have to say that in general, when it comes to social situations, I am not a typically socially awkward person. I tend not to over react to outside stimulus and even though most of the time I would rather just be left alone, I am not at all uncomfortable in public or around a lot of people. I really don't even mind public speaking, but I really don't have to do such a thing all that often.
For the most part, I seem to run through the paces of dealing with people pretty seamlessly. However, lately I have noticed a particular form of missed communication, or mistaken identity if you will, that has been happening to me with increasing regularity. It's one of those things that just strikes when I least expect it and I just never see it coming. Though this problem has begun to land in my lap time and time again and frankly I'm starting to feel a little strange about it.
Have you ever had that moment where you look up in a crowded room and there is someone looking right at you waving. A big, friendly smile on their face that seems so inviting and just begs for your recognition and attention. You don't really seem to know the person and you remember a lot of parties here lately, so you can't really rule out that you might have spoken with this person at some point. You don't want to seem like a real jerk by not even acknowledging them, after all they seem so happy to see you. In that split second you try your best to figure out how and why this person is waving frantically and walking in your direction while looking right at you, but for the life of you nothing comes to mind. So, you simply give a little wave back and smile as you realize that someone else just over your shoulder entered the picture with that same happy look and frantic wave.
And all at once you say to yourself "jackass, not again!", but it's far too late, because your cursed hand is already in the air betraying you once more. You pull your hand back down as fast as you can and you are satisfied that no one has paid the least bit of attention, but you can already see the now strange look on the face of the original frantic waver. That strange look that's a dead give away you didn't pull that hand back fast enough and they are now very confused as to what your problem is and why you're waving too. Thankfully, the awkward stare never lasts long as they unite with their real friend and scurry away from you before you run over for a group hug to complete the task of proving what a freak you really are and lend credence to their suspicions.
Yes, this has been happening to me pretty frequently here lately and I am starting to wonder if the stars are aligned against me. Am I not living right? I have become completely gun shy about waving now, even to people that I actually know. When my wife waves to me in our home, I suddenly start to look all around me as if she may just be happy to see the dog or something. I have seriously developed a complex, and unfortunately I see no end in sight for this madness which has consumed my life at the moment. So consider this a public service announcement, no matter how preoccupied you happen to be at any given moment, always look around carefully before waving to strangers. The pride you save may be your very own.
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