JL's Columbia SC Real Estate Blog: The American Dream

The American Dream


In no version of the American Dream have I heard

anyone say that it was time to give up!!!!



 I have heard or read thousands of stories about the American dream. Stories of immigrants passing through Ellis Island and trying to make the best of their opportunity here in America. Stories of American born citizens who struggled from meager upbringings to great prosperity by hard work and perseverance. Some went to collage, some went to war, and some went for it all. Even the stories that involved a not so happy ending, never had a single line about giving up, quitting, or walking away without giving it all that they had in an attempt to make a better life.

 So, what happened? When did the American dream become something that most American could simply disregard as past rhetoric, not worth the time it takes to imagine? Ilook at my own family, most of which never even made it all the way through high-school and yet they constantly complain about their lives. And they like many others in America are simply not willing to get up off their ass and fight for a better life. Complaints will get you no closer to your goal than simply doing nothing at all.

 I wonder all the time, what happened to the America that my grandparents told me about? Did it ever exist? Did we chase it off, or more likely just piss it away with our plague of apathy that now runs ramped throughout our great nation? Why are so many people content with just floating through life and never willing to lay anything on the line and fight for their spot in the spotlight?

 Now, it seems that most people are content with allowing the government to take care of them and dictate what their lives will become. And in the mean time the government is content to keep taxing the rest of us who chasing the dream to death in order to pay for it all. America used to have so much more pride than that. While people in other countries are still chomping at the bit for the opportunity to get here and chase the dream themselves, it seems that the vast majority of those that were born here could care less.

 It was by no mistake what so ever that this nation became the greatest on the planet. Those that came before us fought and died to make it that way. They would not settle for being OK or for just getting by, they had bigger and better plans. Plans to see this great nation at the top of the ladder and then build a larger ladder. This is the America that I wish to see. The America that won't back down and certainly won't give up. Quite simply the America that we deserve.

 America is far more than just a country, it's an ideal. A state of mind and a home to freedom. But unfortunately many of us have imprisoned ourselves by the belief that we are entitled to great wealth simply by being born. That others are rich and should be punished for it. That we can never be as they are so we think there is something wrong with them. Some people are lucky enough to be born into money, but someone had to earn it before they were. And in the end that is the biggest problem of all, no one wants to earn success anymore. Everyone simply wants it to be handed to them and then blame the rest of the world when it isn't. Never in my life have I heard a version of the American Dream that involved just giving up.


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JL Boney, III - Columbia, SC Realtor - Coldwell Banker Residential Real Estate

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Comment balloon 10 commentsJL Boney, III • March 28 2008 01:47PM


J L it seems to me the new Great American Dream is to find someone to sue. Its really sad. We are becoming a Nation of Apathy. I think you can trace it back to about the time of taking prayer out of school.
Posted by Hugh Krone, Realtor, Sussex County NJ (Weichert Referral Associates) over 12 years ago

Hugh- I can't honestly say when it started, but it did. And in my opinion it desperately needs to stop.

Posted by JL Boney, III, Columbia, SC Real Estate (Coldwell Banker) over 12 years ago
Here is something I am passionate about--I think many of the problems of today starts in the home.  Here is what I think:
  1. Parents have to really pay attention to their children--this means take and interest in them, show you care and make them feel important.  Make sure you are using good parenting skills--the goal is to have happy, healthy and secure children.
  2. Parents that are single still need to also do item #1.  Raising children is not easy especially if folks are doing it alone so get help.  If you feel you are feeling overwhelmed--figure out a way to get a break.
  3. Speak respectfully to one another--being polite goes a long ways.
  4. Limit the use of the television and computer games.  This means seriously limit them this is both in usage time and content.  If you want good readers and children that can entertain themselves, this is the number one way to do it.
  5. Be consistent with the rules and if there are two of you parenting always agree on the parenting. 
  6. Do not talk bad about them to anyone.
  7. Start chores when they are young and want to be helpful.  I would suggest a list with stars for good work (this really works).
  8. Always, always, always make them feel school is important--because it is.  That does not mean hit them over the head (figuratively) if they do not bring home all "A" grades.   Do not make homework time unpleasant--if you are the one helping them.
  9. Do not compare your children to any of the other children in the family--this makes resentment (life-long resentment).
  10. Be honest.
  11. Did I say be honest?
  12. Show children that you like their company.
  13. Do not give them a car too soon--and when you do, set strict rules and stand by them.
  14. Do not give them expensive material things--it screws up their value system.
  15. Do some volunteer work together--show them to care and give to one another.
Out of this I think comes healthier children that will be productive, happy and secure.
Sorry if I got carried away! 
Posted by Leslie Bloss, Bellevue Real Estate Professional over 12 years ago
I think alot of people just want to sit back and do nothing, there is some who put no effort into anything
Posted by Bart Whitmore, Real Estate Agent (Keller Williams- Louisville) over 12 years ago
Leslie- Please do not apologize for the way you feel. I think this is a great list of suggestions, you sound like a fantastic parent. I also believe that many of our problems start in homes and many of them could be avoided by better parenting. But, I also believe that no matter how good a parent is, at some point the child grows up and makes their own decisions and they are responsible for what they do from then on out.
Posted by JL Boney, III, Columbia, SC Real Estate (Coldwell Banker) over 12 years ago
Bart- That in itself is my biggest problem. People sit back and watch life pass them by and then wonder why things aren't better for them.
Posted by JL Boney, III, Columbia, SC Real Estate (Coldwell Banker) over 12 years ago


We have become, just as the Roams centuries ago, fat and lazy and unappreciative of how we go to where we are. It's amazing how fast someone will give up rights for security! And it's a crying shame, too.

Posted by Richard Weisser, Richard Weisser Retired Real Estate Professional (Richard Weisser Realty) over 12 years ago
Richard- I completely agree. Maybe one day people will begin to remember the difficult journey to get to where we are today. Hopefully before we throw it all away.
Posted by JL Boney, III, Columbia, SC Real Estate (Coldwell Banker) over 12 years ago
In my humble opinion, I think it stems directly from the large number of single parent households. I wish more people would fight to stay together instead of seperating as soon as the going gets tough. When I married my wife, i promised her it was forever, and I am going to do everything in my power to keep it that way.
Posted by Israel Barden (RE/MAX Big Bear Village) over 12 years ago
Israel- Since when have you ever been humble? I have to agree with you, too many people give up far too fast on their marriage.
Posted by JL Boney, III, Columbia, SC Real Estate (Coldwell Banker) over 12 years ago