JL's Columbia SC Real Estate Blog: You do Remember Why We do This Right?

You do Remember Why We do This Right?

The Sun also Rises I hear and read a lot these days about how difficult the business of real estate has become. How hard it is to remain motivated in the face of eternal detriment as the hand of today's economy. How short sales, foreclosures, and frightened public perception of the distorted American Dream has drained the life from what we once considered fun.

 But did you forget so quickly that beyond the trappings of business you are also the guide to a brand new life? The sometimes you are beyond blessed by your ability to ingrain your occupation into the lives of real life people, known as clients, who beyond the obstacles of the modern day forge a brand new life that you have a hand in creating. It shouldn't be so hard to remember that you have one of the greatest opportunities in the world and you spend all your time referring to it as a job or just another career in the midst of volitile complacency that has engulfed our existence.


Remember Happiness Remember that frightened excitement of the last family that relocated to your area?Remember that the nervous energy was a power that you could feel in the air and it was almost electric? Everything had a life of it's own from the first phone call, to the hunt for the perfect new home, to the gut wrenching moments we wrote the contract, to the uncontrollable smiles as they received the key at closing. You were there every step of the way and there was nowhere you would rather be in the world.

 Remember those first time home buyers that could even decide why they called much less where to go from here. They just knew that had hopes, dreams, and the overwhelming desire to carve out their own spot in this world and they needed you to protect them in the process. And after all the headache, heartache, and sleepless nights they found the place that they just knew was right for them and there it was, one more welcome mat and Weber sold a new grill. Because this time, there would be no hanging out at the apartment or our house, but everyone would grill out in the backyard of their home. And you could see the smile involuntarily curling up from the edge of their lips every time they uttered the word.

 And you still think this is a hard thing to do? Well, in some ways of course it is, I'll take nothing away from the hard times of the world we face today. But can you remember the times that make it worth it? I sure can! And I consider myself far more blessed than cursed!



JL Boney, III - Columbia, SC Realtor - Coldwell Banker Residential Real Estate

 I specialize in Columbia, SC real estate and the surrounding areas, including Blythewood, SC, Kershaw County, Fairfield County, and Lexington, SC. If you are in the market to buy or sell a home in Columbia, SC or any of the surrounding areas, I would love the opportunity to speak with to see how I can help. Thanks for reading and feel free to contact me if I can be of service to you.

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Comment balloon 33 commentsJL Boney, III • August 30 2009 10:03PM


Jl....we hold a lot of 'new starts in life' in our hands all the time.  It can be very challenging, but very rewarding!

Posted by William Feela, Realtor, Whispering Pines Realty 651-674-5999 No. (WHISPERING PINES REALTY) about 11 years ago

Hi JL-Very well said. It is easier to forget the good things in our lives when the challenging things come and they always come. They are part of life. Have a great week my friend. <SMILE>

Posted by Sharon Lee, Retired and loving life (Sharon Lee's Virtual Assistance) about 11 years ago

New beginings are exciting- and because of the nature of our business we tend to see all aspects. The full cycle of life. Thanks for the gentle reminder that the happy times help get us through the less happy moments... and that tomorrow is another day.

Posted by Allison Stewart, St. Cloud Fl Realtor, Osceola County Real Estate 407-616-9904 (St.Cloud Homes ) about 11 years ago

I sell second homes to retirees in beautiful southwest Florida.  My clients think they won the lottery when they buy.  I say "I sell dreams".  Not a bad way to earn a living.   :)

Posted by Marcia Hawken, Naples Luxury Specialist (WILLIAM RAVEIS ) about 11 years ago

Thankyou for the reminder of the good client that we live and work for. Those are the clients we should remember to help us get past the others. We all have our stories to share just try to share the better stories and forget the bad ones.

Posted by Mike Warfel, Associate Broker (Mike & Rita Warfel Real Estate LLC) about 11 years ago

JL - sometimes it's just hard finding someone who's life you can help. But, I will be heading out again in a little bit just to do that.

Posted by Mike Saunders (Lanier Partners) about 11 years ago

Morning JL, I wasn't just reading your post this morning but I was also feeling it as I read it. I was an excited and a bit worried when we relocated a few years ago and thankfully I had a caring RE agent such as yourself to soothe all worries.

You are certainly in the right business because your clients are sure lucky to have someone who truly cares watching over one of their biggest investments of their life! Very well written, yes indeed.

Posted by Cynthia Bartch about 11 years ago

Yes, and some days I particularly need this reminder, today being one of those days, so thank  you!

Posted by Karen Crowson, Your Agent for Change (Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage) about 11 years ago

JL --- In my selling days, I loved the experience of seeing the look on the client's face when they had found the "perfect" home and I loved the challenges of getting those clients into that home.  All of my clients became my friends.  Your post is right on.

Mama Liz's Signature

Posted by Liz Loadholt, Realtor--Broker-in-charge - Trainer--Relocation Director Covering SC (Liz Loadholt- AgentOwned Realty- Covering SC) about 11 years ago

JL:  Everyday when I log into Facebook I see my friends saying things like, "Can't wait till 5 o'clock," or "Halfway through the workday," or even the classic, "Back to work in the morning.  Yuck!"  I am so blessed to thoroughly enjoy my job.  I never reach a midway point in my day and say, "Whew!  Halfway there."  I don't dread getting up and going to work, and I don't count the minutes until work is over. 

If a Realtor, such as myself, can not picture themselves doing anything else, well, you have to find a way to keep at it and stay positive.  No one likes a negative Realtor. 

Posted by Chris Ann Cleland, Associate Broker, Bristow, VA (Long and Foster REALTORS®, Gainesville, VA) about 11 years ago


Thank you for the heart warming post.  I too think myself far more blessed than cursed. Life is full of challenges and all we have to do is to find solutions to make it happen. Thank you!

Posted by Inez Meehan (Keller Williams ) about 11 years ago

I will have to admitt, the last few years in our market have been tuff ones.  We work with more distressed sellers than ever before - a lot of them did nothing wrong and are having to walk away from 20% or more down payments...it's hard for everyone.  BUT there are those nuggets...of joy, elation that you have to savor.  Thanks for the reminder.

Posted by Tiffany Cloud (HomeSmart Real Estate) about 11 years ago

Thanks for a beautiful way to start a morning!  With all the negative talk going on all around us, it's was a breath of fresh air to read your post.

And, although I haven't been selling for several years now, I still remember the look on one young man's face when he told me to wait when we were leaving the attorney's office after his closing. He was so tickled and excited - and pleased with himself - when he came back and handed me a beautiful boquet of flowers for helping him. Thinking of him, and many others, always makes me smile.

Thinking about good things is a far better way to spend the day than noticing the gloom. Thanks for a good reminder!

Posted by Marte Cliff, Your real estate writer (Marte Cliff Copywriting) about 11 years ago

Well said,  it is always good to look back at why we do what we do.  If it was all about the money, then it will be hard at times.  If it was about helping people and doing something you love doing, then it pays to remind yourself so that you can refocus and continue to be happy with what you do. 

As a CPA, I enjoy helping businesses cut costs and save on taxes.


Posted by Charles Perkins (Charles G. Perkins, CPA) about 11 years ago

There is a real reward in helping people find that right home.

Posted by Gene Riemenschneider, Turning Houses into Homes (Home Point Real Estate) about 11 years ago

Thank you so much for the touching reminder of why we really do so this job we do.  This was a great way to start a Monday morning.

Posted by Jirius Isaac, Real Estate & loans in Kenmore, WA (Isaac Real Estate &TriStar Mortgage) about 11 years ago

Beautiful.  I loved it.  I love this job and you are so right that we are very blessed in the way we are able to assist people.  Thanks for writing

Posted by Colleen Kilfoil about 11 years ago

I think if people really sit back and think about the first time they bought a house or even a car... how they felt at that moment. The fact that you can help get that feeling to others is great. Good thoughts this afternoon JL.

Posted by John Cannata, Texas Home Mortgage - Purchase or Refinance (214-728-0449 http://TexasLoanGuy.com) about 11 years ago

You said it sooooo well. We are a lynchpin in life. That's why I think people are so emotional about their opinions on dealing with a real estate agent.

Posted by Beverly of Bev & Bob Meaux, Where Buying & Selling Works (Keller Williams Suburban Realty) about 11 years ago

We deal with what for many people is the largest investment of their life. They put their trust in us to protect them, in many cases from themselves. It is up to us as proffesionals to maintain a level of expertise and knowledge as well as a positive attitude.

Posted by France and Mark Clausen (Realty Austin) about 11 years ago

Great blog.  Nice to see that we are not just in it for the money and that peoples lives are at stake.

Posted by Mike Henderson, HUD Home Hub - 303-949-5848 (Your complete source for buying HUD homes) about 11 years ago

Yes I do need this reminder quite often. thanks for sharing!

Posted by Ginger Moore (Wilkinson & Associates Realty) about 11 years ago

JL - truly there is a purpose that has a base other than a buck. There is a smile that I gain, with first time home buyers, that supersedes any dollar. Thanks for letting folks know we mostly are from the same cut

Posted by Claude Cross, Charlotte NC Homes For Sale (Homes By Cross, Inc. ) about 11 years ago

I remember the fear of buying my first home over 10 years ago. I have never forgotten the courage that it takes to make the plunge. Nor have I forgotten the great feeling of ownership WITH equity!

Posted by Mark Velasco, Top Producing COMMERCIAL Team 30+ years experience (Sharpstone Commercial) about 11 years ago

Though I may wail and do much nashing of teeth some days as I go through the process of getting my sellers' short sale homes sold or attempt to find out what's going on for one of my buyers, I truly enjoy what I do and feel great reward from it.

Posted by Christine Donovan, Broker/Attorney 714-319-9751 DRE01267479 - Costa M (Donovan Blatt Realty) about 11 years ago

Very well said, you are wise beyond your years.  I will have to remember your 1st paragraphs.  Great post.

Posted by Lyn Sims, Schaumburg Real Estate (RE/MAX Suburban) about 11 years ago

Bill- It's great when it all comes together.

Sharon- They are often over looked when times are tough.

Florida- We are lucky to be in the business that we are. We get to see the good and the bad and help people through it all.

Marcia- Not a bad way at all.

Mike- Forgetting the bad would serve us all well.

Posted by JL Boney, III, Columbia, SC Real Estate (Coldwell Banker) about 11 years ago

Mike- That can be a challenge itself my friend.

Cynthia- I was hoping that this one would touch someone.

Karen- You are very welcome.

Liz- Mine become my friends as well, and I like making friends.

Chris Ann- My work never bothers me. We are lucky and I see others complain all the time as well.

Posted by JL Boney, III, Columbia, SC Real Estate (Coldwell Banker) about 11 years ago

Inez- We all need solutions to our issues, but once we get them we are good to go.

Tiffany- It has been tough, but in the end it will be worth it.

Marte- There's a lot of bad out there, but there's a lot of good too if you look for it.

Charles- This was a good reminder for me.

Gene- Yes there is.

Jirius- Glad I could help.

Posted by JL Boney, III, Columbia, SC Real Estate (Coldwell Banker) about 11 years ago

Colleen- Yes we are.

John- I well remember my first home and how proud I was that it was mine.

Bev and Bob- These things will make people emotional for sure.

France and Mark- We need to be trusted by our clients and offer them expertise to lean on.

Mike- We shouldn't be, we should remember this is a people business.

Ginger- Well there you have it.

Posted by JL Boney, III, Columbia, SC Real Estate (Coldwell Banker) about 11 years ago

Claude- I know that smile my friend, and you are right.

Mark- It is a feeling like no other.

Christine- I know what you mean.

Lyn- Thank you very much.

Posted by JL Boney, III, Columbia, SC Real Estate (Coldwell Banker) about 11 years ago

I just closed one of those perfect sales as this couple moved into the next phase of their life - lake life and retirement.  Joy unspeakable.

Posted by Joan Snodgrass (Midamerica Referral Network) about 11 years ago

Joan- I am looking forward to moving into that stage of my life someday.

Posted by JL Boney, III, Columbia, SC Real Estate (Coldwell Banker) about 11 years ago