JL's Columbia SC Real Estate Blog: Take Youself out of the Equation

Take Youself out of the Equation

 Like anyone who may read this, I too am human. There are days when I wake up and right from the start everything seems to go wrong. I am completely used to one phone call or canceled appointment rearranging my entire day, that's just part of the business.

 However, like everyone else in the world there are days when the whole dynamic just gets to me. Having your entire day wrapped tightly around the fingers of anothers' whims can sometimes be more than just a little irritating. But, most of time you simply learn to accept it as fact and move on.

 But what about the days that you clearly have a lack of acceptance for all the reality that is breaking down before your very eyes? What about the days that you feel as if you are trapped in quicksand and the harder you struggle to break free the further you sink into the oblivion? What about the days that you would rather do anything else in the world than go out and chase after whatever you can find?

 It's on these day that I love the fact that I run my own business the most. Anger and frustration are clouds that hang over your day and often lead to poor judgment on your part. They are a force to be reckoned with and most of the time, time itself is just what you need. You're too close to the situation to change it from the inside, after all you are the situation.

 On those days you need to come to the realization that no matter how hard you try, there is little hope that you will be productive. Even if you were to encounter someone who could use your help, it's more than likely that you are in no shape to truly help them anyway. So take yourself out of the equation so you can get your mind right. You have no idea how much it can help. Besides, who wants to deal with someone having a bad day from the start?





JL Boney, III - Columbia, SC Realtor - Coldwell Banker Residential Real Estate

 I specialize in Columbia, SC real estate and the surrounding areas, including Blythewood, SC, Kershaw County, Fairfield County, and Lexington, SC. If you are in the market to buy or sell a home in Columbia, SC or any of the surrounding areas, I would love the opportunity to speak with to see how I can help. Thanks for reading and feel free to contact me if I can be of service to you.

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Comment balloon 16 commentsJL Boney, III • May 11 2009 12:28PM


I have always been told this. Take yourself and your emotions out of the deal. Most times if you do this, it will work itself out.

Posted by Team Honeycutt (Allen Tate) almost 11 years ago

Remember to check your emotions at the door and yes leave yourself out of the deal! The best example of someone not doing this is going into a store and having the clerk thats waiting on you be in a bad mood. You usually will leave the same way. A clerk who is in a good mood, friendly and smiling will leave you that way as well.

In our business of real estate it is easy to catch that Bad attitude when dealing with people if you allow it to happen, whether face to face or even on the phone. Learning to take a deep breathe and relaxing before someone else comes along helps as well as remembering how people may see us throughout the day.

Posted by Cathy Worrilow (Farm & Home Real Estate & Auction) almost 11 years ago

JL, that may sound silly, but how about going for a quick run or walk. That usually clears my head, and I can face the world with a different attitude.:)

Posted by Joanna Szwyd (StoneHouse Properties) almost 11 years ago

HI JL-This is easier said than done but it is better when we can do so. Great post my friend. Hope your Monday gets brighter if this happened today. <SMILE>

Posted by Sharon Lee, Retired and loving life (Sharon Lee's Virtual Assistance) almost 11 years ago

JL:  I'm having one of those quicksand days now.  If I didn't have an appointment scheduled for late afternoon, I would give myself the day off.

Posted by Chris Ann Cleland, Associate Broker, Bristow, VA (Long and Foster REALTORS®, Gainesville, VA) almost 11 years ago

JL- Is today one of those days?  You are right that sometimes we do need to just give ourselves a mental health day.  I find it very hard though because I keep telling myself I should be doing x, y or z!  Hope you have a wonderful week!

Posted by Kim Peasley-Parker (AgentOwned Realty, Heritage Group, Inc.) almost 11 years ago

JL -  Personally, I just bash my head against the wall.  Nothing quite lets out frustration and gets your mind right like twenty-seven stitches.

Posted by Jason Sardi, Your Agent for Life (Auto & Home & Life Insurance throughout North Carolina) almost 11 years ago

JL - I have to find some sick form of humor to get through it else I'll blow a gasket.

Posted by Claude Cross, Charlotte NC Homes For Sale (Homes By Cross, Inc. ) almost 11 years ago


Sometimes I really let it get to me ... but on most days I just roll with the punches!

Posted by Richard Weisser, Richard Weisser Retired Real Estate Professional (Richard Weisser Realty) almost 11 years ago

JL...sometimes I need to step back and I see that I am part of the problem.  That is horrifying!

Posted by William Feela, Realtor, Whispering Pines Realty 651-674-5999 No. (WHISPERING PINES REALTY) almost 11 years ago

JL, apparently we all have those day's of " why today and not tomorrow", good grief, now what?

                                                                                    ~ Life is Good

Posted by Roy A. Peterson, P.R.E.I. (Domicile Analysis of Texas) almost 11 years ago

We all have those days from time to time.  You're right that its times like those that its good to be self employed.  You can take some time away and come back fresh.

Posted by John Cannata, Texas Home Mortgage - Purchase or Refinance (214-728-0449 http://TexasLoanGuy.com) almost 11 years ago

Honeycutt- It's good advice.

Cathy- That's a great example, I can't count the times that I have gotten to a clerk at any store and they seemed irritated that I was there.

Joanna- I jog just about everyday just to clear my head. It doesn't sound silly at all to me.

Sharon- It is easier said than done, especially when you're busy.

Chris Ann- I had a late appointment yesterday as well, but I was doing alright. Sorry to hear you were having a rough one.

Kim- I find it hard to take a day off myself, but sometimes you just have to walk away to get your head straight.

Posted by JL Boney, III, Columbia, SC Real Estate (Coldwell Banker) almost 11 years ago

Sardi- I try to avoid stitches when possible my friend.

Claude- Sick humor is always easy for me.

Richard- Most days I roll along, but sometimes you just can't help yourself.

Bill- That can be scary can't it?

Roy- They always come when you least expect it.

John- It is sometimes the very best thing to do.

Posted by JL Boney, III, Columbia, SC Real Estate (Coldwell Banker) almost 11 years ago

JL, it's difficult to change the "mood" when you're a solo business person.  Sometimes you have to get out and take a walk, read the Bible or other motivational material, or go to an event with positive people!

Posted by Regina P. Brown, M.B.A., Broker, Instructor (MBA Broker Consultants) almost 11 years ago

Regina- Sometimes anything is worth a try.

Posted by JL Boney, III, Columbia, SC Real Estate (Coldwell Banker) almost 11 years ago