JL's Columbia SC Real Estate Blog: What If......One More Wasted Phrase in the English Language

What If......One More Wasted Phrase in the English Language

 I have always wondered about people who spend a large amount of time wondering what if. What if they had done this instead of that? How would their lives be different if they had made decision rather than another? What if they had the nerve to throw caution to the wind and make a change or take a chance? What if they had paid more attention when they could have, would this all have come out different like a giant ripple affect altering the course life and perception of ability. What if....?

 What if you wasted all your life wondering what if..........? What if you just decided that the inviting sight of the deep end of the pool was a calling you could not ignore? What if you just let go and move on with the life you have left rather than holding on to the baggage that is currently causing you to drowned in a sea of regret? Time is precious and you only get so much of it. What you do with this time is completely up to you, but in my opinion kicking yourself for the decisions you never made doesn't help one little bit with the decisions you need to make.

 I have honestly thought about removing the rear view mirror from my automobile simply because I don't like the idea of looking back. I like the idea of looking away even less. Problems in this life only have a way of taking care of themselves when they are not your problems. So focusing on the issues at hand and not looking away from them is the best way to clear your path for forward progress. Looking back only holds you back, because what is done is done and that will never change no matter how much time you spend wondering what if.......

  The world around you will not wait for you to catch up, this I can assure you. You just have to chase down what you want and what you want is ahead of you not behind you. It's always a good idea to learn from the past, but it's a complete waste to live in it. There is no rewind nor fast forward, so you just have to accept what's gone and look ahead to what's on the way, because like it or not, here it comes. So what if you took the time to free yourself from your own caged mind and told your feet to start moving forward? You may be surprised by the outcome.




JL Boney, III - Columbia, SC Realtor - Coldwell Banker Residential Real Estate

 I specialize in Columbia, SC real estate and the surrounding areas, including Blythewood, SC, Kershaw County, Fairfield County, and Lexington, SC. If you are in the market to buy or sell a home in Columbia, SC or any of the surrounding areas, I would love the opportunity to speak with to see how I can help. Thanks for reading and feel free to contact me if I can be of service to you.

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Comment balloon 15 commentsJL Boney, III • April 14 2009 03:16PM


JL - You are wise beyond your years, my friend.  Someday I hope we can sit down and have that beer and share

Posted by Jason Sardi, Your Agent for Life (Auto & Home & Life Insurance throughout North Carolina) almost 10 years ago

Darn, I hate that I can't edit my comment when I accidently hit the return key, I think.  What I meant to say is I hope we can sit down and have beer and share philosophies as we look forward.

Posted by Jason Sardi, Your Agent for Life (Auto & Home & Life Insurance throughout North Carolina) almost 10 years ago

JL ---- you are soooooooooooooooooo right ---- don't look back.  Did you see my blog yesterday about my favorite quote?  Take a look.

Mama Liz's Signature

Posted by Liz Loadholt, Realtor--Broker-in-charge - Trainer--Relocation Director Covering SC (Liz Loadholt- AgentOwned Realty- Covering SC) almost 10 years ago

JL:  Ever forward!  No sense in looking back.  You can't change it now, but you CAN affect the future and present time. 

Posted by Chris Ann Cleland, Associate Broker, Bristow, VA (Long and Foster REALTORS®, Gainesville, VA) almost 10 years ago

Jl -  you can't unring a bell, that song has already been played. Good post

Posted by Claude Cross, Charlotte NC Homes For Sale (Homes By Cross, Inc. ) almost 10 years ago

OK JL-YOU could have written this post for me. How'd you get so smart YOUNG man? I'll trade brains with you. NO you wouldn't want mine. I've done that what if all my life it seems. I'm doing my best not to do that what if stuff anymore. Somedays it works and other times not so much.  I think there is a feature coming for this. This is a side comment to Jason. The edit button is there it just doesn't show up as you have to run the mouse over where the time is in the bottom right of the comment screen. Thank you for your wisdom and sharing your common sense with a old dog who maybe can learn a lot from a young pup. <SMILE>

Posted by Sharon Lee, Retired and loving life (Sharon Lee's Virtual Assistance) almost 10 years ago


We can never change the past, we must move forward.

Featured in the Group: "Whacked!!!"

Posted by Richard Weisser, Richard Weisser Retired Real Estate Professional (Richard Weisser Realty) almost 10 years ago

JL...Many a life has been wasted and or ruined by the What If!

Posted by William Feela, Realtor, Whispering Pines Realty 651-674-5999 No. (WHISPERING PINES REALTY) almost 10 years ago

JL-  Stop it!  You are making me crazier.. Whenever you and Jason get together for that beer, I want in..My life is in turmoil, and you just inciting me further.  Are you the voice inside my head?  :))))

Posted by Suzanne McLaughlin, Sabinske & Associates, Realtor (Sabinske & Associates, Inc. (Albertville, St. Michael)) almost 10 years ago

I know what you're saying and as usual, you're brilliant but,

what if.."what if" meant possibilities, or trying another position?  In this case, "what if" is better than "whatever."

I'm just messin' with you.  What if I didn't? 

I've been hanging out with my teenager tooooo long.

Posted by Alyce Martin, Albuquerque - THE Place To Be! (The Realty Group, LLC) almost 10 years ago


If the "what if" question wasn't around then what would be the question scientists work on?  ;-)

Posted by Don Rogers, Realtor, Broker, CDPE, GRI, OnullFallon MO & St Charles County MO homes (Keller Williams Realty Chesterfield) almost 10 years ago

I guess sometimes its easier to look back and say coulda, shoulda!  That's a safe out, no consequences there.   Real growth comes when you jump out of your safety zone and into the deep end!

Posted by Laura Giannotta, Your Realtor Down the Shore! (Keller Williams Realty - Atlantic Shore ) almost 10 years ago

Sardi- Hopefully some day we will have that beer big guy.

Liz- It's not worth it, I will be over to check yours out shortly.

Chris Ann- You can let it affect your forward progress, I just don't understand why anyone would.

Claude- Yes it has.

Posted by JL Boney, III, Columbia, SC Real Estate (Coldwell Banker) almost 10 years ago

Sharon- Who says that I didn't write this post for you? I have lived an interesting life so far, my outlook is a direct result of it.

Richard- Yes we must, thanks for the feature my friend.

Bill- And many more will be I'm sure.

Suzanne- I could very well be. Thank goodness it's so spacious in here.

Posted by JL Boney, III, Columbia, SC Real Estate (Coldwell Banker) almost 10 years ago

Alyce- Nothing wrong with hanging out with teenagers. Remember they know everything that we have forgotten.

Don- They would figure something out.

Laura- I'm trying to learn how to swim.

Posted by JL Boney, III, Columbia, SC Real Estate (Coldwell Banker) almost 10 years ago