JL's Columbia SC Real Estate Blog: One More Grain of Sand

One More Grain of Sand

 I have seen a lot of people in this life spends countless hours and days searching for relevance. And the point of this all is? So many people make a half hearted attempt at proving their relavence in this life and that they have a place in the world. Well quite frankly if you had no place in the world you wouldn't be a part of it in the first place no would you? Like most things in the existence, I take a different approach from the norm and look at the situation in another light.

 I set out to prove irrelevance in an attempt to explain that everyone else's search is pointless. Some things in life you can never truly prove nor disprove, they call it faith. You have no concrete evidence before you yet you believe that there is something of substance there before you. Therefore I decided a long time ago that I would not search for my place in this world, after all, my place found me the moment I stopped looking for it. Then I focused on the simple thought of irrelevance in an effort to prove that there is no such thing.

 A single grain of sand on and endless beach must look and feel as insignificant and a rain drop in the ocean. In the minds of most I am sure it's value is little more than just that, a raindrop in the ocean, hardly enough to make a measurable difference at the end of the day. However, no whole is greater than the sum of all it's parts, and that one minute grain of sand is a part of that endless beach. Though it's removal shows no depreciation to the naked eye, in one way or another the beach is made smaller by it's absence.

 I have never understood any obsession with relevance, take the most successful person you know and consider that life will move on without them. Certainly a ripple affect will take place by their retreat, but the waves of the ocean will continue to roll. The same can be said of the least successful person we all know, but we all have our parts of this planet. You may not notice everything that pops in and out of the picture, but it is all relevant at some point or another simply through it's presence. It alters the landscape and becomes a part of the bigger picture no matter how inconceivable it sounds.

 So when you are barreling through this life in search of who you are and why you are here, remember your role has already been cast. The fact that you have the breath and presence of mind to wonder about these riddles and any other for that matter, are proof in itself. You need no half asses philosopher to explain this to you, you only need to take the time to believe in yourself. So what if I am only a grain of sand, so are all the other little grains, but together we make a huge impression on the world around us.


JL Boney, III - Columbia, SC Realtor - Coldwell Banker Residential Real Estate

 I specialize in Columbia, SC real estate and the surrounding areas, including Blythewood, SC, Kershaw County, Fairfield County, and Lexington, SC. If you are in the market to buy or sell a home in Columbia, SC or any of the surrounding areas, I would love the opportunity to speak with to see how I can help. Thanks for reading and feel free to contact me if I can be of service to you.

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Comment balloon 18 commentsJL Boney, III • April 03 2009 02:30PM


I have always said that you as an individual never will be able to understand the immense impact you will have on the world. It is like the idea of Paying if Forward persay. You do one nice thing for one person, you never know how far that deed is going to travel. Good post.

Posted by David Width Jr. about 10 years ago

JL - well that makes me feel irrelevant, or is that very relevant? In the greater scheme of things our relevance is to those that we are closest to.

Posted by Mike Saunders (Lanier Partners) about 10 years ago

....and everything I have gone through in my lifetime was as it was supposed to be....and brought me to this exact space and time....and the woman I am today :)

I like to read your stories....thinkers and reflections for me :)

Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman, (RA) AHWD CRS ePRO OAHU HAWAII REAL ESTATE (Liberty Homes) about 10 years ago

Relevance or your destiny always remind of that line JL in the Forrest Gump movie. Some of what we do we have choices that we make and that make an impact. And some stuff just happens with little reason behind it. I think we have to accept a little of both.

Today is your deep day I can tell JL. I am sitting Indian style and meditating just for you : )

Posted by Gary Woltal, Assoc. Broker Realtor SFR Dallas Ft. Worth (Keller Williams Realty) about 10 years ago

JL its way too deep for me, but I agree with the Faith, faith is when I know it in my knower.  And that's all I have to say about that.  (thanks Gary W for reminding me about Forrest)

Posted by South Austin Real Estate Blog (Sky Realty South Austin) about 10 years ago

JL:  I like this post.  You are relevant because you ARE.  I see so many struggle with making a big impact on their world that they miss they enjoyable little things along the way.

Posted by Chris Ann Cleland, Associate Broker, Bristow, VA (Long and Foster REALTORS®, Gainesville, VA) about 10 years ago

Wow JL...

THis is pretty heavy. I don't necessarily seek relevance, I seek acceptance. I work very hard at trying to fit in.

I realize that life goes on with or without me, but I really hope that I have made a difference in at least some lives!

Posted by Richard Weisser, Richard Weisser Retired Real Estate Professional (Richard Weisser Realty) about 10 years ago

JL, wasn't it Descarte who said, "I think; therefore I am."??   YOU are a philosopher, JL, whether you accept the label or not.   ;-)

Posted by Randy Hooker, Gilbert, Chandler, Mesa, Queen Creek (Dreamcatcher Realty / Greater Phoenix Area) about 10 years ago

I suspect that the search for relevance is what motivates some folks to crawl out of bed in the morning:-)

Posted by Myrl Jeffcoat, Greater Sacramento Real Estate Agent (GreatWest Realty) about 10 years ago

JL- I don't know what caused this...but, it is interesting. Unlike Richard, I don't try to fit in...I realized years and years and years ago, that I am a square peg in a round hole.  I help make the waves, and I hope that that impact will help them continue on....even though as you put it, they will certainly continue long after me.  All we can really hope for is that those who know and love us will continue to think of us kindly after we are gone, in that sense we continue.  But, as for me, I believe in the Irish mantra, let those who love us, love, and let those who don't, may we know them by their limping......

Posted by Suzanne McLaughlin, Sabinske & Associates, Realtor (Sabinske & Associates, Inc. (Albertville, St. Michael)) about 10 years ago

David- It is almost impossible to say how far our arms reach.

Mike- I agree completely.

Sally- Everywhere we were, brought us to where we are.

Gary- I think the meditation worked my friend, I feel much more superficial today.

Gail- I think sometimes I am too deep for myself.

Posted by JL Boney, III, Columbia, SC Real Estate (Coldwell Banker) about 10 years ago

Chris Ann- The little things usually make the largest impact.

Richard- I don't have to tell you that I spend no time searching for acceptance, and I am certain that you my friend have made an impact.

Randy- You know I shun labels big guy.

Myrl- It is a possibility.

Suzanne- That is an excellent mantra if I do say so myself.

Posted by JL Boney, III, Columbia, SC Real Estate (Coldwell Banker) about 10 years ago

I seek very little revelence and not overly worried about acceptence, I seek to live each second without to much of them wasted.

Posted by William Feela, Realtor, Whispering Pines Realty 651-674-5999 No. (WHISPERING PINES REALTY) about 10 years ago

Bill- Not a bad way to be at all my friend.

Posted by JL Boney, III, Columbia, SC Real Estate (Coldwell Banker) about 10 years ago

I would like to be sand in an hour glass.

Posted by Jamie Boney (Mungo Homes) about 10 years ago

Jamie- Are you sure don't want to just be on a soap opera?

Posted by JL Boney, III, Columbia, SC Real Estate (Coldwell Banker) about 10 years ago

Hello JL-You are most definitely a deep thinker. I think that is pretty cool. You are very wise young fellow. I do enjoy so much reading your posts. They always make me smile and I learn something new or at least a different way of looking at things. I hope you are having a great week. Enjoy your evening. :-)

Posted by Sharon Lee, Retired and loving life (Sharon Lee's Virtual Assistance) about 10 years ago

Sharon- I have been for a while now I guess. Hope you are having a great week as well.

Posted by JL Boney, III, Columbia, SC Real Estate (Coldwell Banker) about 10 years ago